Friday, April 11, 2008

Take one for the team.

Elder Richard G. Scott

This beloved man, one of our church leaders gave a beautiful talk (lesson or sermon, if you will) on surviving abuse. While I know many of you are not Mormon (LDS), please take a minute of your time to read along. As many of you know, this most assuredly applies to me. I've only copy and pasted the words that touched me the very most. If you would like a copy of this talk in it's entirety, email me at, and I will happily send you a copy.

To Heal the Shattering Consequences of Abuse.

Faith in Jesus Christ and in His power to heal provides the abused with the means to overcome the terrible consequences of another’s unrighteous acts.

To the Victim

As you conscientiously study the Atonement and exercise your faith that Jesus Christ has the power to heal, you can receive the same blessed relief. During your journey of recovery, accept His invitation to let Him share your burden until you have sufficient time and strength to be healed.

To find relief from the consequences of abuse, it is helpful to understand their source. Satan is the author of all of the destructive outcomes of abuse. He has extraordinary capacity to lead an individual into blind alleys where the solution to extremely challenging problems cannot be found. His strategy is to separate the suffering soul from the healing attainable from a compassionate Heavenly Father and a loving Redeemer.

If you have been abused, Satan will strive to convince you that there is no solution. Yet he knows perfectly well that there is. Satan recognizes that healing comes through the unwavering love of Heavenly Father for each of His children. He also understands that the power of healing is inherent in the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Therefore, his strategy is to do all possible to separate you from your Father and His Son. Do not let Satan convince you that you are beyond help.

Satan uses your abuse to undermine your self-confidence, destroy trust in authority, create fear, and generate feelings of despair. Abuse can damage your ability to form healthy human relationships. You must have faith that all of these negative consequences can be resolved; otherwise they will keep you from full recovery. While these outcomes have powerful influence in your life, they do not define the real you.

Satan will strive to alienate you from your Father in Heaven with the thought that if He loved you He would have prevented the tragedy. Do not be kept from the very source of true healing by the craftiness of the prince of evil and his wicked lies. Recognize that if you have feelings that you are not loved by your Father in Heaven, you are being manipulated by Satan. Even when it may seem very difficult to pray, kneel and ask Father in Heaven to give you the capacity to trust Him and to feel His love for you. Ask to come to know that His Son can heal you through His merciful Atonement.

The beginning of healing requires childlike faith in the unalterable fact that Father in Heaven loves you and has supplied a way to heal. His Beloved Son, Jesus Christ, laid down His life to provide that healing. But there is no magic solution, no simple balm to provide healing, nor is there an easy path to the complete remedy. The cure requires profound faith in Jesus Christ and in His infinite capacity to heal. It is rooted in an understanding of doctrine and a resolute determination to follow it.

If you are currently being abused or have been in the past, find the courage to seek help. You may have been severely threatened or caused to fear so that you would not reveal the abuse. Have the courage to act now. Seek the support of someone you can trust. Your bishop or stake president can give you valuable counsel and help you with the civil authorities. Explain how you have been abused and identify who has done it. Ask for protection. Your action may help others avoid becoming innocent victims, with the consequent suffering. Get help now. Do not fear—for fear is a tool Satan will use to keep you suffering. The Lord will help you, but you must reach out for that help.

To Parents:

Parents, in appropriate, sensitive ways, teach your children of the potential danger of abuse and how to avoid it. Be aware of warning signs, such as an abrupt change in a child’s behavior, that may signal a problem. Be alert to a child’s unsettled feelings and identify their origin.


My Ice Cream Diary said...

Thanks for the link to your new blog.

I actually thought about you (and several other specific friends) when listening to this talk. It must be nice to have someone come out and say these things so clearly. I know we are supposed to forgive the abuser but it is nice to hear someone say that what they are doing is unrighteous and from Satan.

just jamie said...

I'm so glad that you have found *many* paths to healing. Elder Scott's words are strong and vibrant, promising and honest. Good reminders, "... they do not define the real you."

The real Misty, My Misty, the one who has opened up to us, is forging a new path, or road if you will, where her horrid past will not keep her from her bright future.

Love to you.

Klin said...

I tell my clients, "There's hardly nothing we can't fix."

Excellent talk. Excellent post.

Lynell said...

I also loved this talk. I don't remember the topic of abuse ever being covered in this way. I was so grateful and know many who needed to hear these words. Thanks for posting them.

utmommy said...

This was an AMAZING talk.

Cheri said...

I don't think you have to be Mormon for this to resonate. I found it VERY uplifting; it will engender hope and foster healing to anyone seeking it. THANK YOU MISTY!

Marie said...

Misty this is wonderful, your sharing these words with your readers. Cheri is right you don't have to be Mormon for this to resonate. I know I am a bit biased because I am LDS, but I just think there is so much wisdom in the leaders of our church. We truly have something very valuable in the Gospel. I know that it has helped me to not only be the person I always longed to be, but also the person Heavenly Father always told me I could be. It took having the Gospel in my life to give me the strength and courage to be just that. Not sure if that made any sense or not, but I know wha I meant!!

I have a good life said...

I love Elder Scott. He is my very favorite speaker and he speaks with such love and concern. I am so glad that his talk helps you with your healing and sharing it will probably help many more! :)