Saturday, January 31, 2009

Sticking Together.


We made it, for the most part, through week two, people! I find I still struggle with "normal" life - cooking, cleaning, laundry. And. I still have no desire to leave my house. None at all. Not one bit. Although today I HAVE to. I have to grocery shop. We're getting a wee bit low on the essentials.

We found out about Isaac two weeks ago Thursday. That night we all slept in our own beds, but after a horrible night for pretty much every one, the kids asked if we could just have a big sleep over, hence the "Community Bed", which I like to call it. Hannah provided digital documentation. We progressed from the Community Bed, to the kids sleeping on the floor in my room, to the kids sleeping in their own beds again when they felt ready. I'm also happy to report Ian's nightmares have gone, he's sleeping more peacefully. As am I.





I had one big irritation this week. Let me try to tastefully explain. I have biological family and I have adoptive family. I have severed ties completely with my adoptive family. I don't email, I don't call, I don't write letters. My last correspondence with my "parents", was this past Christmas, after a year had gone by with no communication, I emailed my father, told him I didn't want his money, and had no intention of keeping in touch, to which he responded he was "out of my life for good". Which actually was funny because - seriously - they were never "in" my life to begin with. So anyway. This person in my family not only emailed her friends, which I might add, have said some pretty horrible things about me before, she emailed my adoptive family. Are you freaking kidding me? This is MY damn news. And why the hell would I want anyone to know about MY precious child, that I have no relationship with?? And not only that - have a BAD relationship with? This person blew it. Some information you have NO right to pass along. Privacy exists. I promptly emailed her and told her she would receive no more updates from me. All information she gets will be second hand, or at the very least, from my blogging, where she's likely to snoop. So really - - to this person - - thank you for including the people that have hurt me the most and have NO right to this private news. This isn't the latest piece of hot gossip for you to gain pity and attention over. This is my child. My child, that will die. My child that we grieve and mourn. You really added to my emotional stability at this time.

Moving on. I have a lot of emails and comments to respond to. And I will. I plan to respond personally to each and every one. I appreciate each kind word and vow of support. Under normal circumstances, I would reach out immediately, but really - - I'm just not my normal self these days.

Here's to a Saturday of grocery shopping and cleaning, and here's to some pretty fabulous Super Bowl parties this Sunday. Whoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! '

Till next time, we'll be hanging in there.

12 comments:

Mandy said...

I am so glad that you all sticking together...you are such a strong and remarkable woman.

just jamie said...

My kids would love your "fort." Can we come over and all camp out too?

And to your insensitive, nosy, news-sharer: go away!

xoxoxo

Are You Serious! said...

♥ I'm so sorry to hear about the "friend"...

Great pictures though and I love your header! :)

Eliot's Mom said...

Glad you're sleeping better. Sorry that some are making this all more difficult than it already is. I have not been a good friend this week. I need to call and check in on you. Enjoy your Super Bowl parties. And I'm proud of you for making it to the grocery store. Take all the time you need getting back to "normal" life. Just wish I were there to pick up some essentials (and maybe some non-essentials!) for you.

Pokeyann said...

Yay community bed! I love you, call me, or I'm gonna call you, but somehow we are talking this week, k!

Marie said...

Some of the best times with my family were the nights we camped out on the living room floor together. There was an odd sense of comfort in that. My heart can't begin to know how you truly feel, but my heart does ache for you and as ever you are all in my prayers.

Danielle-lee said...

First off, I like the new blog arrangement. Love the hands! :)
Second: Are you f-ing kidding me? She is not exactly a FRIEND now is she?? Sheesh. I'm sorry
Third: I love the pictures of you and your kiddos. So dang cute. Is that your hubby? So sweet to me that ALL of you slept together, including hubby. And you? You are a picture of beauty, I tell you! I love that pic of you.
Again, thinking of you, praying for you........

Anonymous said...

I am so glad that you are all able to lean on each other. And that you are able to get a bit of sleep.
And I am sorry about the rude person who "shared" your news.
I don't know the details of your family story, but I am so sorry that you have so much pain. I am an adoptive mother to two beautiful little girls and it breaks my heart that you had to endure such horrible things.
Praying for you, your family and your beautiful baby boy.
Debbie

Jason, as himself said...

I'm sorry that in all the horrible there is more horrible. But at least you've got each other and it seems like you're doing a great job leaning on one another and helping each other get through stuff.

Holly said...

Thanks! I like the sweater too. :) I am always encouraged to meet other women traveling on the same road as me. I am holding up very well, which really surprises me b/c from everyone I have met whose baby has anencephaly I seem to be holding up the best. I think God has a lot to do w/ that! I really don't fell that anxious at all. I feel at peace right now. Now, this may very well change my due date gets closer! lol I recommend joining the yahoo group Anencephaly Blessings From Above if you haven't found it yet. A wonderful group that has helped so much!

Celia said...

Misty, I am so sorry to hear that you are having to travel down this same path. It is a struggle. I will keep you in my prayers. I am not sure if any one else has told you about a support group on Yahoo (I saw that Holly had posted earlier; she is a member of the group as well). It is called Anencephaly Blessings From Above or http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/anencephalyblessingsfromabove/

It has been a God-send, literally. If you have not checked it out yet, then please do. They are a wonderful group and they have all been through or are going through the same experience.

LaskiGal said...

That is just plain frustrating. I'm so sorry for your "family" . . .

but happy for your FAMILY!!! The community bed is wonderful!

I hope you are taking care of YOU!

Just know I thinking of you, K?

Love . . . L